Are you looking for an alternative to behavioral strategies aimed at extinguishing or distracting children away from their feelings? Would you like a clear, proven path to resolving the emotional issues that block healthy parent child interactions?
Have the parents you work with tried star charts, behavior modification, natural consequences, or distracting children away from their feelings via rewards and punishments? Maybe they have dabbled with the punitive use of time-outs? Perhaps they spank or yell when patience runs thin? Even educational or “mindful” strategies, which rush children towards “thinking” and “using words” too soon, can backfire and injure parent-child trust and communication.
You understand that parenting gets hard in the places that were difficult in the parent’s own past experience. But how do you explore those issues with parents who are already under so much pressure?
Have you had to stand by as parents damaged relationships with their children or seen parent-child relationship become more tangled and distant?
There’s another way.
We’re always learning, and when we know better, we do better. With Hand in Hand Parenting tools you can feel confident and clear as you guide parents to become their best, finding support in others, and exploring the important relationally-oriented tools they can use to build greater emotional connection in their families.
Join us for an eight-week intensive course in Hand in Hand Parenting Tools, designed for psychologists, therapists, social workers, teachers, medical professionals, members of the clergy, and parent-outreach workers. Your choice of small-group mentoring sessions. 20 CEUs. The online classroom is open and ready for you now. The next course begins in September.
"A unique element of this course is the opportunity to participate in a multidisciplinary, and often international, mentoring group where participants can experientially engage with the Hand in Hand Parenting tools and collaborate with colleagues who are exploring this approach in a wide variety of professional settings and within their own families. The cross-disciplinary conversations that go on in these mentoring calls have been a true professional highlight for me!" -Maya Coleman, PhD Clinical Psychologist
Where D.W. Winnicott said, “There is no baby, without a mother,” we might go on to say, “There is no mother, without a community.” I appreciated the opportunity to lean out from the comfort of my professional specialty, and consider how common cultural attitudes often leave parents feeling inadequate and isolated. This provocative topic is addressed thoughtfully, without being heavy-handed. Hand in Hand Parenting offers intelligent thinking about the work of parenting, as intentional counterpoints to subtle, negative messages that are culturally conveyed. "It has been tremendously gratifying to weave this parenting strategy into my clinical work with parents, and into my home life with my own children."
- Beth Ohanneson, M.S. M.F.T.
You will spend several hours each week practicing new skills with the parents and children in your family and professional practice, as well as receiving and providing support in a Listening Partnership.
You will belong to an online classroom for discussion and video learning materials, which are accessible for repeated viewing throughout the course.
You will have access to all the videos and supplemental materials from our Hand in Hand Parenting Starter Class, including the Parent Handbook and the complete set of Listening to Children reading materials.
Your small-group mentoring sessions will meet via a weekly conference call. A portion of each mentoring session is devoted to participation in a listening support group.
Your total weekly time commitment during the eight weeks of the Intensive will be 4-6 hours per week.
At the heart of Hand in Hand Parenting is one very simple idea: children’s feelings play a deeply useful role in their lives. There are four fundamental principles behind Hand in Hand Parenting that are related to this simple concept:
1) Connection is absolutely vital to the well-being of children. Being in good connection with parents and caregivers who are attuned to their emotional state allows children to learn well, build loving relationships, and adjust flexibly to the changes that life brings.
2) Children often go through challenging experiences they can’t fully comprehend, which can cause big upsets to arise. When this happens, they feel disconnected and aren’t always able to tell us how they’re feeling. Instead, they signal this to us through off-track behavior (e.g. whining, inflexibility, impulsivity, aggression, etc.).
3) We can help children heal from this sense of broken connection by listening to them and understanding their emotional expression is part of a natural recovery process. Listening is the cornerstone of this approach. Our experience as well as the science tells us that having a chance to release tensions in these ways allow children to once again engage flexibly and lovingly with people around them.
4) Hand in Hand offers two listening tools that parents can use to build support for themselves so they can replenish their energies and do the important emotional work of parenting.